“Are you MOM enough?”

How could I not post about this?

Notice this cover says May 21st 2012 in the top right corner. It’s not even out yet right? Yet it’s ALL OVER the internet. This woman – Jamie Lynne Grumet and her THREE YEAR OLD son are automatically known.

I can’t read the article on the TIME’s website cause they want you to pay for a subscription – I won’t even buy the stupid thing to read the article but it has to do with attachment parenting. What is attachment parenting? This is according to Dr. Sears (the guy who is featured in the story). Oh – these are HIS points – and MY observations and what I did/do with Keira.

1. Birth Bonding – I stayed home with Keira for the first three month’s of her life. I hardly ever left her alone and she slept in a cradle by our bed and when she couldn’t or wouldn’t sleep in there she slept ON me in our bed or ON me on the couch. Now she sleeps in her crib in her room and we use a monitor to keep a listen out for her.

2. Breastfeeding – Keira was exclusively breast-fed for three months. Once I started back to work I couldn’t pump enough to keep up my supply of frozen milk. Now – she gets at least one and a half bottles of breast milk and three and a half bottles of formula a day at day care. There is always one extra bottle when I pick her up because I pick her up early unless I have something to do after work. When she comes home she’s breastfed and when we are out she’s breastfed. At church I bring a bottle for the nursery just in case.

3. Baby Wearing – I have a Moby wrap. I’ve used it maybe ten times. Jeremy has used it maybe five times. Keira is very wiggly and I doubt she’d want to be in there. She likes to sit on my hip so a sling carrier would be better for us now and I am looking into getting one that adjusts.

4. Bedding close to baby – See above #1

5. Belief in the language value of your baby’s cry – Those people who say babies cry for attention are stupid. Your baby – up to a certain age – cries because either they are hungry, dirty/wet or tired (at least in Keira’s case – she fought sleep hard for a while). I can tell when she’s “pretending” to fuss and actually fussing and crying. All mom’s should be able to tell the difference (IMO).

6. Beware of Baby Trainers – Or the Cry It Out method. I thought about buying a sleep trainer timer but then I realized – what’s the point? If she wakes up it’s because of something (dirty diaper, hungry, etc.) and never in my life would I let her cry and hollar in her crib. That’s just ridiculous to me.

7. Balance – Dr. Sears says you are supposed to be able to know when to say yes to help and when to say no and how to balance the rest of your life (marriage, other kids, job, etc.)

Do I basically follow was Dr. Sears says? Yes – I guess you could say I do. Do I take it to the EXTREME like Jamie Lynne Grumet? NO. I will try my darndest to nurse Keira until she is a year old. She sleeps in her crib in her room, we do not let her cry it out for any reason. If I had a sling I would wear it to the store, to family outings and anywhere else I needed to. It would give my left shoulder and arm a break and maybe I wouldn’t get sharp numbing stabs every so often any more. The girl wants to be up and see what I see so I let her. She hates to be held sitting down if there is stuff to look up at.

Good for Jamie for having the balls to do what she’s doing. She says she was breastfed until she was six. Good for her mom too. It may not be the right thing for everyone but for her and her son that’s what she thinks is best. I heard her interview from some news channel and she said that he is starting to self wean so this year will more than likely be his last year to nurse.

The title on the cover did piss some people off and understandably. Some mom’s can’t nurse – that’ doesn’t mean they are bad mom’s. Some mom’s – like me – can’t pump enough. I thought I was horrible giving Keira formula (mind you Seth was formula fed because I thought breastfeeding was “gross” when I was 18) but in the end at least I am giving her more of my milk than formula.

Every mom is mom enough. You give your baby the best you can with what you can and that’s all you can ask for. Women are looked down upon for breastfeeding, women are looked down upon for formula feeding. No matter what you do there will always be someone there to try to tear you down. I speak from experience. Do what you think is best for your baby and screw everyone else’s opinions. Here – on this blog – I’ve stated my opinions very openly and honestly. Do I expect you to read them and DO them? No. Do I expect you to get pissed at me for them? No – and I don’t really care if you do. Do I expect you to RESPECT my opinion? Yes and if you’d like we can have a discussion about anything you want. Why one thing is better than the other or why one thing is bad etc. but in the end – it’s my opinion and you’re not going to change my mind and I’m not going to change yours and don’t get pissy at me for it.

So – am I MOM enough? YES – and so are you.

Hey Hey!

I’ve been away for a few days – not like away from the house or my city just – absent from reality I guess.

Sickness took over our house for the past two weeks. First it was me with my infection then Jeremy had a sinus infection. Once that went away he got ANOTHER sinus infection AND strep throat. I’ve never seen him so sick in the eleven years I’ve known him.

On top of that – Seth got sick Thursday when I picked him up from school…no temperature just throwing up. I then learned there was three cartons of milk involved before he went outside to play in 80+ degree weather. Needless to say he went to school the next day and he was fine. Now – he’s got bad allergies to where its running down the back of his throat and making it sore. Keira is congested too but I talked to her pediatrician and they said since she isn’t running a fever to just keep her nose suctioned out and use a solution to help clean it out. She has an appointment today anyway for her four-month check up.

Finally I think we are all getting better. We were invited to go to Six Flags this weekend and Jeremy’s awesome step mom volunteered to keep the kiddos. It’s supposed to rain (40% chance) so who knows if we will actually go.

On another note – I’ve jumped in to a possible good thing with a friend of mine. It’s going to start small but we will see where it goes. I promise I will have more information soon. Things should be getting off the ground by the end of next month. Lots of people thought I was going to say I’m preggo – nope. Not Here!!

Although Katie from Bower Power IS!!! Congratulations Katie!!! Your video made tear up at work! My little girl was born on Nov. 18th last year….can’t wait to see what you’re having!!!

Training (Day 234)

Training the new girl is going pretty well. She learns by doing so I’ve just kind of sat back the past two days and watched her. Monday she watched me and she’s getting the hang of it pretty well.

Today I have a doctor’s appointment. I must have another ultrasound to check her weight – Friday she was 6 pounds 5 ounces – so I doubt that’s she’s gained a lot since then. They will check my blood pressure and stuff as always. Last Friday it was 143/93 or something like that. My protein count was +2 which has gone up in the past two weeks. There is a 99% chance that I will schedule my induction for this Friday – November 18th.

It is so NOT what I wanted but since there is a definite possibility of putting my health and hers at risk with my toxemia getting worse – we decided to not risk it and go ahead with what the doctors recommended. Today there will not be a weekly update. I am telling you right now – after Friday there won’t be many updates from me for at least a week (posts rather). I am sure you can understand why. I will make time to post to my Twitter and my Facebook if you follow me at either place. Although I haven’t figured out how to put text with pictures on Twitter – I just can’t figure it out for some reason. So if there is a picture – I will post a description after.

I will however – tonight or Thursday – make a post about when my induction is on Friday and how everything went at the doctor’s appointment this evening. So stay tuned and wish me luck.

xo – S.J.

 

Counting Calories (Day 232)

I must say – I have enjoyed having a Smart Phone or an Android phone if you will. There are all kinds of free apps and things you can download. We have AT&T so when we are linked up to a WiFi connection – our internet usage is FREE and since we use WiFi at home – we constantly download apps (free ones) to our phones. Jeremy more than me but that’s okay. I will download something and use it for a few days and then uninstall it because I don’t find it useful any more.

Since I will be having Keira soon – I know I will start having to watch what I eat (I already do but just more so) since I will be nursing. I know that I need a few hundred more calories a day since I will be nursing and I don’t want to just eat junk. I want to start trying to eat more fruits and veggies and be aware of what all I am putting in my body. Anything that can go into my blood stream can go to her.

So – I got to searching on my phone and I found this app called “Calorie Counter” which was free to download. When you open the program for the first time it asks you if you are male or female (duh) and if you want to use pounds/feet or kilos/centimeters. Of course I clicked pounds/feet. Next it asks you to put in your current weight. I won’t tell you what I put in. Next you put in your goal weight. I want to get back to 120 pounds like I was seven or eight years ago.

After that it asks you your height (5′-4″ for me) and then your birthday. After that is your level of activity a day. Sedentary, low active, active or very active. I picked low active cause I will be up more since Keira is coming soon (probably be more like “active”). It then asks you your diet goal. If you want to gain weight, have slow weight gain, maintain weight, slow weight loss and just weight loss.

I am going to put slow weight loss even though I know I will lose a lot just after Keira is born (her weight, water weight, placenta etc.). You then pick your country and make an account (if you want). I didn’t make one. It then pulls up a screen and tells you what everything is you are looking at. There is a daily food diary, an exercise diary, weight tracker, and then you can also search for food by restaurants (SO AWESOME) or you can scan the bar code on something and put in how many servings you are eating. I haven’t found ONE thing that isn’t in this program. Of course – if I make something myself like I have been lately – I don’t always know the calorie count so I try to find the individual ingredients and add them separately. I know that seems like it would take forever (and it does sometimes) BUT you know just what you are getting.

You can also look up recipes on here and add them if you want. It really helps you keep up with how many calories you take in a day and it has made me very aware of what can be good for you and what can be bad for you. For example – Jeremy and I hit up Dunkin Donuts the other day and they serve breakfast all day. I originally wanted a blueberry muffin. I search by restaurant and then clicked muffins and found the blueberry muffin. It has 500 CALORIES in it with 16gs of fat with 83 carbs and 48gs of sugar. Based on a regular “diet” that one muffin makes up 22% of your recommended daily intake.

ZESH!!

So I went and looked at the blueberry bagel. Know what? It has 330 calories with 3gs of fat, 65 carbs and 10 grams of sugar and is only 14% of your recommended daily intake (2300 calories for slow weight loss). That made my decision easy peasy. I got the blueberry bagel! Plus they toast it so it’s all warm and delicious. You can also go in the app and look up cream cheese from Dunkin Donuts and add that to the bagel if you wanted.

I don’t use it every day like I should but I try to. I realized that a lot of the things I thought would be good for you (like a salad from Applebee’s) aren’t really. (The chicken breast covered in cheese was better as far as calories and fat content). Like I said – I am going to try to start eating at home more – making our own dinners and such so I will have to go through and find each individual ingredient and add it. You can save favorites to a certain place for quick adds.

So I think this will help me a lot in watching what I eat and keeping track of things.

Do you have a Smart Phone or an Android and use an app similar to this one?? Has it helped you?

xo – S.J.

Darn It (Day 230)

Went to the doctor again today.

Still have high blood pressure, still have protein in my sample, but I have softened a bit. That’s good right?

Tomorrow will be “clean up the entire house” day until around six when Seth has a “movie night” with the kids from church. Then Jeremy and I will find something to do – for our last night out for a while without kids. Hopefully things will all work out kind of how I wanted.

The boss men interviewed the lady to replace me while I am gone today. I called the HR lady at work and let her know what the doctor said since more than likely next week will be my last week at work. She will hopefully start either Monday or Tuesday which means I will only have about three or four days to train her which to be honest – I don’t think is enough.

More to come later on what’s happening.

xo – S.J.

38 Weeks (Day 228)

Well – it’s once again that time of the week.

I’ve said “I’m done being pregnant!” to myself at least a few times this week. I weighed myself this morning. I’ve gained a pound since Friday but I guess that’s better than gaining seven. I have to go back to the doctor today so they can check my blood pressure. I don’t know if they will check anything else – I guess we will see.

Per last week – I am in the last fruit stage over at The Bump so nothing new there. I do feel like a watermelon though. It’s getting harder for me to find shirts to wear. I’ve started to wear my belly bands again because I can’t zip my pants, much less button them.

Baby Center says that Keira is about 6 pounds 9 ounces and is around 19 1/2 inches long. She has a firm grasp and her organs have matured to the point to where she can survive outside the womb. This week it talks about her eye color. It says that if she’s born with brown eyes that they will likely stay that way. If she’s born with steel-gray or dark blue eyes, they may stay gray or blue or turn green, hazel, or brown by the time she’s 9 months old. That’s because a child’s irises (the colored part of the eye) may gain more pigment in the months after she’s born, but they usually won’t get “lighter” or more blue. (Green, hazel, and brown eyes have more pigment than gray or blue eyes.)

Seth’s eyes were a bluey grey when he was born and now his eyes change from blue to green or a mix. It depends on what he’s wearing. My eyes change color from brown to green – mostly depending on my mood. Jeremy’s eyes can be either a really dark blue grey color or a really light blue color to green depending on what he’s wearing.

Baby Center also talks about breast-feeding. I asked and there is a lactation consultant that comes to visit you every day in your room at the hospital I am going to and they are available for questions throughout the day. That kind of helped me be not so nervous about nursing. I didn’t with Seth so this is a new thing for me.

The bags are packed for the hospital and in the car and her car seat is installed. Her room is just about complete (still waiting on the last vinyl) and there are a few little things to be washed (a dress, a hat, 3 teethers and a blanket) and two things still need to be put up on the wall. The painting my mom did for the baby shower that everyone signed and a wall plaque. We don’t know exactly where each one will go but it should be done this week.

Work is still looking for a replacement for me while I am gone. They want to interview people and I will only have about a week to train them – that is – if Keira decides to wait until her due date to arrive. There is a little bit of TMI ahead so if you’re not into pregnancy related stuff – have a nice day.

I am pretty sure I lost my mucus plug. It wasn’t red or brown or anything just a lot more “stuff” than usual. It lasted about two days and it’s pretty much stopped today. I know that it’s not a complete sign that she’s on her way but hopefully it’s a start. Maybe Friday when I go back to the doctor (when I know they will check me) I will have made some progress. Keep your fingers crossed.

xo – S.J.

Family Outing (Day 227)

After having a blah day on Friday – Jeremy said he wanted to go out Saturday and have some fun. Sounded great to me! ๐Ÿ˜€ I am not the type of person to sit down and chill out all weekend. I have to do something. Although – lately that hasn’t been the case – Saturday’s I like lying around the house not doing anything but then Monday comes around and I realize there was clothes that should have been washed, folded and put away. The kitchen needed to be swept and mopped and the bathrooms needed to be cleaned. I then resort to either making Seth help during the week or being grouchy and doing it myself.

Anyway – some fun was needed – and deserved. I looked through our coupon book that runs out December 31st and didn’t really find anything. There were coupons to the aquarium but we didn’t really want to go downtown. We did however find some coupons for a local mini golf place. We could get eight free tokens – no purchase necessary and we had TWO of them. So off we went.

We went in and there were FOUR birthdays going on that day – So. Many. People. They were rude too. I got bumped into by the same lady like three times. She never even said sorry. We made our way to the counter and got our tokens. We gave Seth a handful and off he went. Jeremy and I played a round of ski ball each and then we played air hockey. In total Jeremy and I used about 4 tokens – Seth used the rest (that’s 12). We got a few tickets and he was able to get a few little toys.

The other coupons we had were buy two tokens for the batting cages and get one free – I of course can’t do that so Jeremy and Seth did. I was nervous to watch Seth in the batting cage. He’s never been in one as far as I know. They used the 50 mph baseball cage and I so feared that Seth would step outside the batters box and be hit – but he didn’t and he actually hit quite a few.

When that was said and done we did 18 holes of mini golf. Seth had to pick up the ball for me on every hole because – well – I can’t bend over to pick it up myself. I won by one point – Jeremy wanted a recount – it still came out the same. ๐Ÿ™‚ We had an hour to kill before we were supposed to watch a movie so we went to a local park and walked a path they had just finished adding to. I think it was about a half a mile or so each way so a mile total. There were rose bushes along the path that still had blooms on them. It’s been low 30’s at night for a few nights this week and I was surprised to see them. They were frail and you could tell they would be gone soon but they were still pretty.

After our walk and Jeremy and Seth skipping rocks we went to our movie. We watched Puss In Boots 3D. Thank goodness they don’t have those crappy paper 3D glasses that have one lens one color and one lens another. These were actually like glasses and it was pretty good. I must say though when Puss would talk (Antonio Banderas) I couldn’t picture him – I could only picture Jack Black as Nacho Libre.ย  Don’t ask me why – I have no idea.

After the movie was over we headed home. We had planned on eating out but instead just picked up Taco Bell (not the best but it’s what my belly wanted) and once home we ate some left over Halloween candy and a few hours later went to bed after getting cleaned up.

All in all – it was a fun day. Seth enjoyed the batting cages (he was too small for the go carts) and I liked the fact that we all got to spend some much-needed time together. Things like that won’t happen for a while in a few weeks (maybe days). I’m glad we got at least one family outing in before she gets here.

Have you done any family outings lately??

xo – S.J.

Dandelion Root Tea (Day 226)

Ever heard of it? Yeah – me either till a few weeks ago.

I pinned a picture to one of my Pinterest pin boards – this picture (it’s in my “Food and Drinks” section).
“Helps flush out excess water weight” – that’s what struck me the most. When I read that I looked at my feet. So I got to researching. The web site that pulled up first was AmericanPregnancy.org and this is what it had to say regarding herbal teas – which – is what dandelion root tea is.

“Herbal teas are naturally caffeine free, so caffeine is not an issue when consuming this type of tea.” So no caffeine which is a great thing! “Herbal tea companies, such as Celestial Seasonings, report that they do not use any herbs that are considered dangerous and choose to use herbs from guidelines that the FDA has published.ย The herbal teas that are considered to be unsafe are those that are not made commercially, those made with excessive amounts of herbs (amounts larger than those found in common foods or drinks), or those made with herbs that are known to be toxic.” So there are guidelines that herbal tea companies should follow.

This is what they have to say regarding dandelion root tea. Dandelion (Insufficient Reliable Information Available) Rich in Vitamin A, calcium and iron; dandelion root and leaf can also help relieve mild edema and nourish the liver.”

NOW – I know that too much vitamin A during pregnancy can cause birth defects and for breast-feeding mom’s it can concentrate in milk. The only thing I can’t figure out is if one tea bag in 60 ounces of water (like it says to do above) is too much. I’d think not but – I can’t find anything. I have found the dandelion root tea bags online at Amazon and I checked at Wal-Mart but they don’t have any. They had just about every other kind of herbal tea but not dandelion root tea. I have to go back to the doctor on Wednesday and I may ask him about it. If he can’t give me any information on it then I will drive out to our local Vitamin Shoppe and see if they know anything about it or try to find some other little hole in the wall herbal store.

If you know anything about this kind of tea – let me know. If it will help me lose some of the swelling going on and be beneficial after I have her without being bad for me or her I’d love to use it.

xo – S.J.

37 Week Appointment Update (Day 224)

My appointment was later than usual on Friday. I will only see the midwife Anna or my regular OB Dr. Ashcraft. My OB alternates offices on Fridays so I had to see Anna. She doesn’t get there until 2pm so that’s when my appointment was.

I picked up Seth early from school since I knew I’d have to be going out to the mall for somethings and might not be back in time to get him from his after school program. Thankfully – my nephew Jeff was off work that day and could keep Seth while I went to my appointment. They were going to check me to see if I was dilated or anything and I didn’t want to have Seth sitting in the waiting room alone. Besides – he and Jeff could play basketball or video games while I was gone.

After dropping Seth off and visiting with my FIL Mike for a minute I went on to my appointment. It wasn’t long before I was called back and weighed and my blood pressure taken. It was high – just a little – 135/83 or something like that. Just a reminder it’s usually 117/70. I don’t know why it’s high every other visit. I think I just stress out about the appointments or something.

I didn’t even want to know how much I’d gained and didn’t look after she wrote it down. I am pretty sure though I’ve gained about 50 pounds. At least – according to my scale at home. At least 15 pounds of that (maybe 20) is seriously water weight. You should SEE my feet, ankles and calf’s. It’s ridiculous. I wasn’t gaining anything really until I started to swell – that’s the only reason I say that. I looked up somethings about losing water weight – that will be another post.

So after sitting what seemed like forever Anna came in. She started off with the bad news – I had protein in my sample. You girls should know what that means. She then checked out my mini elephant feet and didn’t say anything else. She checked me – NOTHING.

NOT 1 cm dilated not thinned out a tiny bit – NOTHING. She even said that Keira wasn’t even far enough down yet.

Seriously? UGH! She then said she wanted me back on Wednesday to check my blood pressure again and that was it. Have a nice day – and she’s gone. I of course asked her about ways to bring on labor before she left and all she said was “Lots of (you know what)”. Like it was no big deal. I was kind of embarrassed.

So – I left the doctor’s office with no good news and a little bit of bad news (the whole protein thing). I DO NOT want to be induced PERIOD. I will avoid that as much as possible. As long as she is fine – no one is coming near me with any medication.

xo – S.J.

It’s Coming….(Day 223)

I promise.

My Pinterest project is complete – I just need to take some more photos. Friday wasn’t the best day for me and Saturday was pretty busy and kind of aggravating around oh say – 9 o’clock at night – as was Sunday (busy – not really aggravating).

I finished Keira’s hair bow/clip holder. Jeremy hung it yesterday while I went to the store – I just haven’t snapped pictures yet. Tomorrow it will be up. Promise! I’ll tell you all about my appointment too – and the TWO appointments I have this week.

Is it bad that I’m glad the weekend is over? Maybe I shouldn’t say that out loud….

xo – S.J.